When I was fourteen I met my husband for the first time. We started off talking and getting to know each other as friends with the permission of my parents. Once I turned fifteen, we officially started dating also with the permission of my parents.
I am the mother of a `registered sex offender’. I won’t say sex offender because I will not accept that label for my son. Anyone who has ever had their child labeled unfairly will know the pain that comes with this tag. Our family has been living in a nightmare for four years now but my son’s story began much earlier.
Once upon a time, a young high school teacher was pursued by one of her male students; he flirted, made suggestive remarks, and wrote her poetry. She made her first stupid mistake by not reporting it to school authorities. She eventually committed her second, very stupid mistake.
Records refer to me as the “victim” of a sexual assault. I do not, nor have I ever, considered myself the “victim”.
At the age of 14, I fell in love with a young man who was 19. Like many young, immature teens, we did not think of the consequences of our actions.
I met my husband when we were 18. We dated for awhile but we each were very different. After we stopped dating, we continued to stay close and although we dated others over the years, we always knew that we belonged together. When we were 24, we were not together but he was working out of town and I didn’t hear from him that night to make sure he was okay.
My son is in federal prison because he crossed state lines. For over two years he had been friends with a girl he met on the internet. When he was 21 and she was in high school, after 2 years of phone calls, letters and chatting, they fell in love.
THE U.S. IS A ONE MISTAKE COUNTRY FOR THE MENTALLY ILL;
The Federal judge looked down sternly upon the young man who was standing before him awaiting his sentence for downloading images with pornographic pictures of children from the internet.
When Derek was 18, he had just moved out and was living on his own. A friend had introduced him to the prospect of selling books on the internet. Derek was making a pretty good living. He was chatting on the internet with a 13 year old girl and I am sure it was not his first time.
I know of a young man who’s life has been severely damaged due to current sex offender laws. His situation occurred only one (1) month after his 18th birthday, while he was still in high school. The girl was with her father when she met this particular young man at his place of employment and claimed to be 16.
In 2006, my son Eric, then 22, was arrested for chatting online with a 15-year-old girl. They were just friends and had never met in person. But one day when he thought he was chatting with her for a few moments, he was actually chatting with her father.